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Dixie Dillon Lane's avatar

I have been thinking about invitation this week, and how when an invitation is extended, half of the discernment is complete. You may discern to accept or to decline an invitation, but only if the invitation has been extended to you. You may also discern to extend an invitation yourself, but you cannot invite yourself.

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Kerri Christopher's avatar

This is a great point! It can be applied to so many areas of life, even “smaller” ones like an invitation to dinner with potential new friends.

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Haley Baumeister's avatar

This has so many implications! One that most easily comes to mind is those decisions that are made in a marriage, which affect the whole family. One person could discern XYZ for any matter of things, but both spouses need to be on board for the decision to move forward (at least, in a healthy situation).

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Kerri Christopher's avatar

Yes! Absolutely. I think that switching from discerning life as a single person to discerning life with a spouse (or, I guess a religious order? I’ve never tried that!) requires some serious adjustment and lots of conversations about expectations and who has the final say in cases of disagreement etc.

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