A Masterclass in How to Say No

In case you're ever at a loss for words

Our friends have a toddler, and she (like every toddler I know) is very good at saying “no.”

“Would you like some milk?” (Cheerfully) “No!”

“Let’s get our coats on!” (Cheekily) “No…”

“Can you say bye-bye?” (Sadly) “Noooo”

Somewhere between the age of two and adulthood, many of us lost the ability to say no with the confidence of a toddler. 

Some of us are stuck in people-pleasing mode, afraid to offend anyone. Some of us come from cultures where there’s immense cultural pressure to always say yes in the face of a polite request. But some of us simply find ourselves at a loss for words because we feel that it’s rude to use that one little word, “no.”

If that’s you, I’d like to share with you a masterclass in how to say no. You’ll get a script where you can just fill in the blank so next time you need to decline, you can do so with confidence and peace.

This is really important in the discernment process, because sometimes we’ve discerned that saying no is the best thing, but because we don’t know how, we don’t actually do it.

Then, we’re stuck doing something that we actually feel called not to do.

Fear not! Saying no, kindly and firmly, is simpler than it feels.