I remember this from the original post, but enjoyed revisiting it again.
It's always interesting to think on this idea. And honestly I am a serial quitter. Overall, I have had no problem doing so. So that could be an opposite issue in some way. (Similar to how I feel very much outside conversations about type-A/career-inclined/perfectionist/achievement-oriented women who become mothers or whatever and have an identity crisis and troubling managing. I have, historically, not been someone described that way - with sports or instruments or fun new art classes as a child. With choosing a major or place to live or trying various fields of work. It seems I have only ever tried new things and quit (need to think on this more! It might be the negatives of fear or laziness. It might be a combination of something else!)
It's literally amazing to me when I hear of people who just tried and stuck with one instrument/sport/hobby/career path etc. To me it's like "well how would you KNOW you actually wanted to do that without trying and ruling out the other options? just luck or something? very good intuition??"
Perhaps the things I have stuck with the longest in any sort of long-term commitment are the marriage to my husband (very good stabilizer, also.. vows are important...) and mothering and my newsletter. haha
Thanks, Haley! I believe it’s Jen Fulwiler who refers to your sort of track as “iterating”- you had to try out a lot of different things before you found the thing(s) you really love and would stick with. In your case, it seems like sticking with this newsletter despite the other (rather significant!) changes of life like (more) little kids and moving and discerning church communities shows that you’ve definitely found at least one of your big things for this season of life. And I imagine at somewhere down the line you’ll find yourself enjoying and sticking with some adjacent things be it fertility instruction or urban planning or editing :)
I def wrote this with the type A/ Hugh achiever women in mind, but I think both that path and your iterating one have pros and cons- with your pros being that you don’t stick with stuff that’s a bad fit! A lot of my clients secretly wish they hadn’t stuck with careers for a decade before even thinking about calling it quits.
Thank you Kerri, some really important considerations in relation to discerment and quitting. United in prayer.
Thank you for your comment and prayer, sister!
Thank you Kerri!
When we spend our time on "things that don't fit anymore or have changed";
is God " moving us on"?
In our prayers, we ask our Lord:
"Please don't let us waste our time on things that don't matter"!
He always wants the best for us and He helps us through the hard times!
Thank you for all you bring to light!
"Please don't let us waste our time on things that don't matter" - Amen!
Thanks for your encouragement, Paul.
I remember this from the original post, but enjoyed revisiting it again.
It's always interesting to think on this idea. And honestly I am a serial quitter. Overall, I have had no problem doing so. So that could be an opposite issue in some way. (Similar to how I feel very much outside conversations about type-A/career-inclined/perfectionist/achievement-oriented women who become mothers or whatever and have an identity crisis and troubling managing. I have, historically, not been someone described that way - with sports or instruments or fun new art classes as a child. With choosing a major or place to live or trying various fields of work. It seems I have only ever tried new things and quit (need to think on this more! It might be the negatives of fear or laziness. It might be a combination of something else!)
It's literally amazing to me when I hear of people who just tried and stuck with one instrument/sport/hobby/career path etc. To me it's like "well how would you KNOW you actually wanted to do that without trying and ruling out the other options? just luck or something? very good intuition??"
Perhaps the things I have stuck with the longest in any sort of long-term commitment are the marriage to my husband (very good stabilizer, also.. vows are important...) and mothering and my newsletter. haha
Thanks, Haley! I believe it’s Jen Fulwiler who refers to your sort of track as “iterating”- you had to try out a lot of different things before you found the thing(s) you really love and would stick with. In your case, it seems like sticking with this newsletter despite the other (rather significant!) changes of life like (more) little kids and moving and discerning church communities shows that you’ve definitely found at least one of your big things for this season of life. And I imagine at somewhere down the line you’ll find yourself enjoying and sticking with some adjacent things be it fertility instruction or urban planning or editing :)
I def wrote this with the type A/ Hugh achiever women in mind, but I think both that path and your iterating one have pros and cons- with your pros being that you don’t stick with stuff that’s a bad fit! A lot of my clients secretly wish they hadn’t stuck with careers for a decade before even thinking about calling it quits.